7 things you can do but shouldn't


Years ago, I had a coach who made a simple yet profound statement. Addressing the proper way to pass a soccer ball, he said: “The ball will never go where you don’t make it go.” As obvious as it sounds, his statement brought an increased level of concentration to how I was playing. More than that, it helped me to understand that in life, as in soccer, results are most often the response of our decisions—intentional or not.

Therefore, just because we can doesn’t mean we should.

Yes, I am able to pass the ball nearly anywhere on the field, but I need to be thoughtful in where I pass it in order to get the outcome I want. The same goes for the decisions we make in life. If pain and problems are more consequential than accidental, we need to be more intentional about what we're doing.

here are 7 things you can do but shouldn’t:

Respond to emails, text messages, and phone calls whenever you receive them.

Constant interruption hinders our ability to be productive. Recent studies have confirmed that although multi-tasking makes us feel more productive, it is not actually beneficial. 

Instead, try scheduling your day by picking two to three isolated times for intentional communication. The only exception to the isolated communication times may be a short VIP list for people like your spouse and children. 

Automatically take the next promotion or professional opportunity.

Happiness is not having what you want, it’s wanting what you have. 

I’m reminded of this each week as I pass by a particular motorcycle shop that is no longer in business. Why did the business go belly up? After decades of success, the owner decided to build a new and bigger location. The result: bankruptcy.

Before jumping in to a new opportunity that looks or sounds appealing, do your research to decide if the option is right for you. 

Listen to something or talk on the phone while driving.

Driving is an overlooked opportunity. Without thinking, most of us turn on the radio or call someone every time we get behind the wheel. Instead, try planning your day, praying, or processing your potential problems. 

Snack, eat out, or eat whenever you want.

Looking good and feeling healthy has a lot to do with daily decisions. People don’t get fat on accident.

Do something 7 days a week.

Your mind and body need rest! Here’s a good article promoting a day of rest: The Lost Practice of Resting One Day Each Week.

Avoid tough conversations or confrontation.

The absence of tough conversations or confrontation is an indication of selfishness and superficial relationships – the exact opposite of what we need. Here’s one way to conquer confrontation.

Spend any extra money you have.

Clothes, shoes, eating out, video games, home improvements, the latest electronics…the list goes on and on. Earning extra money doesn’t mean you should spend it. Put it away for a rainy day or unexpected expense.

What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear: Just because you can doesn’t mean you should…